The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands

The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands

By: Laura Schlessinger  

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Average Customer Rating: 4.0 out of 5

In her most provocative book yet, Dr. Laura urgently reminds women that to take proper care of their husbands is to ensure themselves the happiness and satisfaction they yearn for in marriage.

Women want to be in love, get married, and live happily ever after. Yet disrespect for men and disregard for the value, feelings, and needs of husbands has fast become the standard for male-female relations in America. Those two attitudes clash in unfortunate ways to create struggle and strife in what could be a beautiful relationship.

Countless women call Dr. Laura, unhappy in their marriages and seemingly at a loss to understand the incredible power they have over their men to create the kind of home life they yearn for. Now, in The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, Dr. Laura shows you—with real-life examples and real-life solutions—how to wield that power to attain all the sexual pleasure, intimacy, love, joy, and peace you want in your life.

Dr. Laura's simple principles have changed the lives of millions. Now they can change yours.

Publisher: Harper Paperbacks

Release Date: 2006-09-26

Customer Review: 5 out of 5
Works for me after nearly 11 years of marriage! - I'm one of those wives who wants nothing more than for a happy, comfortable marriage. I don't want drama, I want to be loved and if acknowledging that most men agree with the statement "If I'm not horny, make me a sandwich" makes me happily married, then so be it! This is not a book for a feminist who thinks marriage is for convenience only. Dr. Laura teaches that men are simple (boy are they!)and you need make few changes in life to accomodate them. I agree that if you make your man happy, he in turn is going to do things to make you happy. I've been married almost 11 years and this book offers the second best advice for marriage only behind the Bible.

Customer Review: 1 out of 5
Backfired - After I followed the advice in this book my husband completely took me for granted. The more I did, the more he expected. Dr. Laura assumes that when you give a lot to a man, they will be thankful and give to you in return. Many just keep on taking and taking as much as they can, without without giving anything in return.

And in looking at the marriages around me, I wonder where are all of these abused, neglected men? It seems that the women work hard to make the men happy, and just get treated like servants and taken for granted. The women are so careful not to hurt the man's ego, they try to look nice for him, take care of most of the childcare and housework, work outside of the house and the men can't even be bothered to give their wives a compliment or some affection. It's too bad that such a popular book places most of the blame on women, and women will believe it and try to do even more than they already do.

Customer Review: 5 out of 5
Do TYou Want Your Marriage To Work, or Not? - If you go online and do a search for terms like "good wife" or "taking care of husband" you will find almost nothing. There are entries from religious fundamentalists, and lots of feminist criticism of the very concept, but overall, there is pretty substantive evidence that in this culture, especially if you're educated, the very idea of wanting to be good at being someone's wife is considered stupid and oppressive. There are millions of entries about how to be a good husband, what women need and want and so on, but the opposite concept just doesn't exist. In fact, if you look at the tags for this book, you will see terms like "evil" and "waste of a good tree".

What the hell is going on here?

If you are a woman, your marriage probably is the most important project in your life. At the very least, it's in the top five. Why on earth would you not want to get it right?

Your husband needs things. He. Just. Plain. Does. You do, he does. By giving these things, you are not being a traitor, or a slave, or a puppet. You're working to make sure that someone you presumably care a lot about gets what he needs from you. If you love him, that's what you want, right? And even if you don't, if you want to stay married, that's what you ought to do.

That's what makes a marriage work. Without it, you're either miserable or divorced or both. If that's what you want, then yes, this book is a waste of a perfectly good tree. But you're also nuts.

The book is about taking husbands seriously. It's about respecting them in their own homes -- the same way you'd respect, say, a neighbor or the UPS guy. It's about thinking about his feelings. It's about seeing him as human and trying to work with and for him, actually being on his side.

As just a single example from my own life, my brother-in-law came home from a week of business travel one evening. His stay-at-home wife had made dinner for the kids, which was pasta, and then had then put the leftovers in the fridge. Her husband gets home, completely beat, and ends up making himself a peanut-butter sandwich at the kitchen counter while his wife and the kids watch a movie. Why the hell wouldn't she keep dinner hot for him? What does that say to him? "I don't really care" is what it says. That is the kind of thing this book is about not doing.

You don't have to agree with all of it. But it's both puzzling and pathetic that this book pisses so many women off. But this book is dead on, and if you want your marriage to work, read this book and think about it. Hard.

Customer Review: 4 out of 5
The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands - The book was a good informative read. I would recomend woman read this book before they get married. It was too late for me, and a lot of the suggestions in this book I had messed up on. It lead to a very difficult marriage. My husband is very disconnected with me, and this book has help repair some of the damage.

Customer Review: 3 out of 5
It's ok - After reading this book I felt there were many valid points; however,when I found out her Doctorate is in physiology, a lot of this book and her advice became to me somewhat on a personal level than professional. I listen to her talk show as well and on many occasions, she is personal and quite unprofessional even though she is a licensed marriage counselor.
Many years ago there was a book called "total woman" and this book is reminiscent of it.
This book is ok and I am glad it is short and sweet because if I had to take much more of the same thing I think I might toss it into the fire and use it for kindling.

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