How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk

By: Adele Faber   Elaine Mazlish  

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Average Customer Rating: 4.5 out of 5

Here is the bestselling book that will give you the know-how you need to be more effective with your children--and more supportive of yourself. Enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, the down-to-earth, respectful approach of Faber and Mazlish makes relationships with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding. Now, in this Twentieth Anniversary Edition, these award-winning experts share their latest insights and suggestions based upon feedback they've received over the years.

Their methods of communication-illustrated with delightful cartoons showing the skills in action-offer innovative ways to solve common problems. You'll learn how to:

• Cope with your child's negative feelings-frustration, disappointment, anger, etc.

• Express your anger without being hurtful

• Engage your child's willing cooperation

• Set firm limits and still maintain goodwill

• Use alternatives to punishment

• Resolve family conflicts peacefully

Publisher: Harper Paperbacks

Release Date: 1999-10-01

Customer Review: 5 out of 5
Good book with good ideas - I was told about this book as good and i can agree more. It has exercises to go over and use them in your personal situations with your kid.

Customer Review: 5 out of 5
Everyone should read this - This book gave me lots of new ways of dealing with my child. Before that I felt like I was sometimes beating my head against a wall. It gives you lots of different ways to deal with your child by showing him/her respect most of all & not just barking orders, which always backfires on me anyway. Not everything will work all the time but when it doesn't there's usually another strategy you can use.

Customer Review: 5 out of 5
wonderful for the experienced and unexperienced communicator - Well written easy read about real communication between parent and child.
Great for the novice and experienced communicator. Highly recommend.

Customer Review: 5 out of 5
How to talk....to people - Ah, the parents' condundrum: How to treat children respectfully and also get them to LISTEN? to Cooperate? They are not mini-adults, so they don't think about things the same way we do. It is not my goal to have my children "obey-without-question;" it is my goal to raise critical thinkers! But it is nonetheless essential that children obey without question at times -- with my very young children, 2 and 3 at the time of this review, safety issues in particular are hot buttons.

I believe in modeling desired behavior. Being raised in a more authoritarian-styled household, I found myself searching for ways to get children to listen without becoming a spanker, a yeller or a nag, because I think all of those things model negative behavior. But on the flip side, I can't have kids who grab toys or who run in the parking lot or say "no" and run away when it's time to leave.

I'd read Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason and liked the general philosophy, but needed actual tactics for real-life scenarios and that's what I found from this book! Simple, concise examples for how to present things objectively and help children learn to assess and make GOOD decisions! Great examples of how to correct without becoming critical or nagging!

I constantly receive comments on my children's polite behavior when they interact with other people and other children. They are not perfect, but we continue to work/practice to treat others kindly and respectfully. In my experience, this type of approach yields individuals who are empathetic and compassionate and who are internally-motivated to treat others well instead of doing it because they fear punishment. I think the best way to teach others about respect is by demonstrating respect FOR them, especially in the parent-child relationship where one individual has so much authority over the other. If you agree with that philosophy, then this book has tools that you will use again and again.

Customer Review: 5 out of 5
The best book on parenting ever--even for kid with LD - I have two kids, one of whom was challenging developmentally. This book gave me the language to work with him so that he could learn to help himself. He has grown into an extremely sensitive pre-teen, a joy to be around.

When I was desperate with my children, a friend handed me this book. I'm the kind of person who tends to not like parenting books and I though the comics were stupid looking. Lo and behold, when I started reading this book, it literally changed my life. The telling incident came when I was stuck on the tarmac of an airport. My anxious and antsy child had already been sitting for three hours. The plane, now landed and waiting to taxi for deplaning, was getting hot in the Florida sun. He started to explode. Thanks to this book, I could "talk" to my almost pre-verbal kid. I handed him the barf bag from the seat in front of me and a pen and I said, "I can see you're uncomfortable. Draw me how you feel." And boy did he draw! He could finally express himself. The situation defused instantly and I really understood--and he felt understood.

During the visit with his cousins, I used the techniques in the book to help him figure out strategy for dealing with group situation. Over time, I used every technique in the book.

After asking permission of parents, I've bought this book and handed it to them, just as my friend handed the book to me.

My challenging (and challenged LD child) has grown into a lovely pre-teen, gentle and understood, thanks to the techniques in this book.

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