Surviving an Affair

Surviving an Affair

By: Willard Harley   Jennifer Chalmer  

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Average Customer Rating: 4.0 out of 5

Publisher: Revell

Customer Review: 5 out of 5
Helped save my marriage - I will not bore everyone with a lengthy review other than this book helped me save my marriage. My spouse and I are both military he was deployed for six months and had a "sexual affair" with another woman. I on the other hand, got "too close" to a male friend who was here to help out while my husband was gone. When he returned it was pretty obvious that "He" had ruined our marriage he had sex with another woman. I on the other hand thought that I was totally innocent.....until trying to save our marriage and reading this book and realized we were this couple in the book and I too had messed up and had an all out "Emotional Affair." Prior to this I had no idea such a thing existed. This was not the only answer to saving our marriage but going through counseling etc, it helped my husband and I find US again and we are actually stronger now than we have been in the past five years. If you would have asked me that just a few months ago I would have never thought but this book was a valuable resource for us. Highly recommended.

Customer Review: 5 out of 5
Good book for those of us looking for answers. - I bought this book as a recommendation from a online forum and I must say it does the job well. The book goes through and explains both sides of an affair and then goes to explain how to avoid it in the future. I recommend both you and your spouse read the book to get the most benefit out of it. It also finishes up nicely with ways you can make your marriage even better than before the affair. It is well worth the money.

Customer Review: 5 out of 5
surviving an affair - The book was a God send, my wife and I are still together and have worked through our differences and more closer now than ever.

Customer Review: 1 out of 5
No good for the cheated-on spouse - This book uses an extremely arrogant affair as the scenario to base its assumptions and rebuilding on. It places too much blame/stress on the spouse that wasn't cheating to heal the relationship and doesn't let the hurt spouse acknowledge his/her feelings. (In this scenario, it's the wife that did the cheating and will not/does not want to end the affair.) In addition, it uses trite phrases such as "Love Busters" in order to rebuild the relationship. I do not recommend this book unless you are in the same scenario as this couple. I have found other books to be more instructive for both parties involved that present more realistic and varied scenarios to base advice on.

Customer Review: 1 out of 5
Waste of money - Dr. Harley takes the money of those that use his counseling service and buy his books and offers little in return. The vast majority of people that have worked Willard's plans to recover from adultery fail to regain their marriage. Even his own estimates are that 20% of the people that use the MB plans actually get their marriage back.
Discussing this information on his site is darn near impossible as he employs a lot of moderators to stifle any discussions that suggest the plans are less than stellar.
Do an Internet search for "Marriage Builders & waste of money" and see what you come up with. Far too many people have coughed up too much money for "coaching" and direction from the Harley's. Willard doesn't even do the coaching now...this has become the "family" business and in many ways it is run like the "family."
As MBers has become a cash cow for the Harley's don't expect them to relinquish the crown without a fight.

All that being said, Harley DOES have good ideas on how to make some marriages better. His concepts regarding honesty and protection, while very obvious, will result in better communication and closeness. But the bottom line is, his plans suck when it comes to infidelity...and THAT is where this man makes his big bucks.

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