Us: Americans Talk About Love
By:
John Bowe
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From the wards of New Orleans to the cornfields of Iowa to the slopes of Colorado, from the raves of Los Angeles to the hollows of Appalachia and the canyons of Wall Street, Americans talk about love. Tortured teenagers, free-spirited octogenarians, anxious Navy wives, blue-blooded bohemians, horny-but-chaste pastors, and multiply-partnered cosmopolitans tell extraordinary tales of broken hearts; sexual infidelities; improbable reconciliations; hidden, forbidden, preposterous love; and endurance against all odds. These are America’s real love storieswise and foolish, comic and tragic, full of surprises and straight from the heart. John Bowe has contributed to The New Yorker, GQ, The New York Times Magazine,and This American Life, among others. He is co-editor of Gig: Americans Talk About Their Jobs, co-screenwriter of the film Basquiat, and author of Nobodies, a book on modern American slave labor. Visit the website for Us at http://americans-talk.com/us/ Everywhere and anywhere, Americans talk about love. It is a universal concept that brings with it mountains of stories and countless emotions that mysteriously links people from New Orleans to Colorado, from Lose Angeles to New York. In Us: Americans Talk About Love, tortured teenagers, free-spirited octogenarians, anxious Navy wives, blue-blooded bohemians, horny-but-chaste pastors, and multiply-partnered cosmopolitans tell extraordinary tales of broken hearts; sexual infidelities; improbable reconciliations; hidden, forbidden, preposterous love; and endurance against all odds. These are America’s real love storieswise and foolish, comic and tragic, full of surprises and straight from the heart. In Us: Americans Talk About Love, John Bowe uses first-person accounts to uncover the incredible range of human experiences with love . . . No aspect of lust, greed, need or devotion is ignored . . . It is as compelling as literary fiction . . . but it also functions as a kind of self-help manual, forcing readers to examine their own longings, failings and assumptions about love.”Julie Scelfo, The New York Times
Bowe and his colleagues interviewed people with backgrounds and experiences as wide-ranging as the country is diverse, and whittled those dialogues down to short stories told in the subject’s own voice . . . It’s a dream book for anyone with a respectable sense of voyeurism.”Ellen McCarthy, Washington Post
In Us: Americans Talk About Love, author John Bowe presents 44 firsthand storieshideous, hilarious and ultimately hopefulfrom the likes of teenagers, sex workers, Amtrak conductors, immigrants and octogenarians. Every day is Valentine’s Day in this profound, touching work of social anthropology.”Los Angeles Times Magazine
Journalist John Bowe and his coeditors jack us with uncanny directness into the Great American Erosand in some cases the Id . . . This gaggle of voices from all walks of life will have you giggling, crying, and muttering to yourself in alarmingly rapid succession.”Ben Dickinson, ELLE magazine
Funny, brutally honest, quirky, devastatingly painful, and hopeful all at the same time. Every story is a small movie I wish someone would make.”Judd Apatow, writer, director and producer of The 40 Year Old Virgin, Knocked Up, and Funny People
It’s interesting reading this volley of love stories. One finds oneself comparing one’s own great love to each of these couples, thinking, Oh, we’re a much better couple than them,’ or, Gee, they seem to know a few things I don’t.’”Ira Glass, host and producer of This American Life
A new engrossing book, comprised of compelling interviews with average’ everyday Americans, all about the great loves of their lives. The book resembles a great work of literary fiction . . . I opened it up and got sucked right in.”Maura Kelly, MarieClaire.com dating blog
Unlike the typical anthology filled with essays by familiar authors, Us offers love stories by nonliterary types, told in their own voices . . . Editor John Bowe takes the pulse of American experiences of love won and lost . . . Although Bowe claims to have no special expertise on the subject, he’s quite articulate in describing love’s endlessly surprising nature.”Carmela Ciuraru, The Christian Science Monitor
The literary version of a box of chocolates from your sweetheart . . . a Valentine’s gift made to last. You could read one short, sharply edited story per day, just as you could pick one chocolate a day from your 2-pound heart-shaped box. But not every tale in this oral history is sugary-sweet . . . Some of them are beautiful. But many of them are painfuleven if only with the bittersweet twinge of an unrequited first crush.”Louisville, KY/Southern Indiana Courier-Journal
[A] novel and fascinating approach to the problem of writing about love.”Glamour.com daily dating blog, Single-ish”
I love love, in all its permutationsgritty, glorious, courageous, clumsy, brutal and beautiful. US: Americans Talk About Love is the wisest, frankest, most entertaining book on the subject. The extraordinary stories in these pages illuminate the absurd wonder of the ever-hopeful human heart.”Isabel Gillies, author of Happens Every Day: An All Too True Story
This amazing book made me think of Walt Whitman, who asked Who speaks of miracles? I know of nothing but miracles.’ Like the best of Studs Terkel, the detail and power of the voices in these pages remind us that a kind of miracle is unfolding every day, all around us.”Nick Flynn, author of Another Bullshit Night in Suck City
[The] stories are amazing. Quirky, moving, despairing, transcendent. Not prisoner to fashion.”NPR’s On Point with Tom Ashbrook”
Stirring, humorous, altogether addictive.”NBC New York
Oh good God this book’s a dazzler . . . Like the best oral history books . . . Us reads totally unmediated slash natural and, therefore, mildly voyeuristicyou’re a few lines into each chapter, each person’s individual story, before you realize two things: 1) how much you want to know what happens next, and 2) how unwilling you’d be, if you were just a stranger sitting next to that person, to ask . . . Read it now.”Weston Cutter, Corduroy Books
If there’s an overriding theme to this book, it is of love’s enormous powerto push, prod, change, humiliate, thrill and infuriate . . . Taken together, these stories are almost overwhelming in their emotionsbetrayal, depression, giddiness, confusion, fury.”Laurie Hertzel, Minneapolis-St. Paul Star-Tribune
While the more dramatic stories will likely stick with readers longest, plenty of accounts chronicling the deep, gentle bonds of long-lived romance, or the intense burn of young love, strike satisfying chords. Bowe allows each of his subjects the space to tell their stories, and each one proves compelling in itself . . . This hard-to-put-down take on love is surprisingly substantial.”Publishers Weekly (starred review)
Fun and interesting . . . Following the tradition of oral historian Studs Terkel . . . each respondent provides an honest and deeply personal view into the passions and foibles of love . . . reads like a compilation of short stories.”Library Journal
Publisher: Faber & Faber
Release Date: 2010-01-05
Customer Review: 3 out of 5 Huge Disappointment - After hearing John Bowe on NPR and reading a profile of him and this book in the NY Times, I had high expectations for this book. On NPR Bowe spoke eloquently and incisively about his own troubled experiences with love that led him to compile this book. If only his voice were present in the book's essays as opposed to those that are there. No new ground is broken, no revelations, not even a spark of insight. Just lots of dull, self-interested droning about some successful and some not-so-successful love affairs.
Customer Review: 4 out of 5 love - Ok. but not great. Taped interviews with people of different ages. Nothing new for me.
Customer Review: 5 out of 5 For anyone who wants to believe in TRUE LOVE, BUY THIS BOOK! - In a lesser writer's hands, this book could have come off as schmaltzy as the latest romantic comedy movie-dreck that Hollywood pops out with alarmingly senseless regularity.
Instead, it's a vibrant portrait of love in its many shapes, sizes, colors... none of them simple, all of them real.
Skip the tired attempt at the movie theater and spend a night at home with this book. You'll be all the better for it. And after you've read it, at long last, you'll finally know the true historical culprit that drives us all to our best and to our worst: LOVE.
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Perry
Customer Review: 5 out of 5 These are your people - get to know them - John Bowe has done us a service with this book - as well as we might think we know our fellow Americans, we have a lot to learn.
These are the sorts of stories that make one think twice when gazing surreptitiously at some odd couple on the subway or at the gas station. They make it much harder to forget that everyone we see, no matter how poorly they may appear to fit in the matrix of what we call normal, wants, needs or grapples with that thing we call love - just like us.
And with each character given free rein to share their own very idiosyncratic version of an experience virtually all of us share, this book dodges a trap. Bowe never suggests that he knows what love is, why it is, what makes it work or why it fails. He never privileges one kind of love over another. By arranging the tales according to the duration of the relationship, Bowe chooses the one metric that can be called truly objective. He doesn't try to line them up by their level of success or failure. He lets each stand on its own, unburdened by any ranking, assessment or judgment.
That decision on Bowe's part disappointed at least one reviewer here ("Mr Bowe does not use the voices of his interview subjects to enlighten us on the topic ....what can we really learn about love from their stories?"), but rather than being a weakness I think this ranks among the book's greatest strengths. The reading experience is uncluttered by Bowe's personality, or those of his many assistants. The reader is left free to decide what these stories tell us about love in general, or our own loves.
Readers seeking more direction can easily find it - the bookstores are full of tomes describing what love SHOULD be, or how it SHOULD work; I even remember a series of jelly jar glasses decorated with naked children that purported to be guides to love ("love is ... the greatest feeling you can feel!").
That's not what Bowe is offering. This book provides evidence - painstakingly extracted evidence - not an argument. The reader is left free to consider what this his or her own love affairs look like in the light of that evidence. Forty, sixty or a hundred years from now, when other, more prescriptive love-tomes have been rendered dated and obsolete, this book will serve its purpose just as well as it does today.
Customer Review: 5 out of 5 LOVE FOR VALENTINE'S DAY - It may be the full moon, or karma, or the stars were lined up in the right order, but whatever the cause, it is a wonderful book to come out for Valentine's Day. Did Bowe or his publisher plan it that way? I hope so. My wife and I have read a few segments together, and enjoyed it every time. It helped define love for us, and what keeps people together for the long haul, or in the short run as the case may be. It is also a good book to read a few pages at a time, and then pick it up when times and schedules permit. For me, it was a page turner, and I often found myself skipping other reading because I wanted to read the next love story...A good book for contemplation and meditation about your personal future with your loved one. Read it together like we did.
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