I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression
By:
Terrence Real
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Description:
Twenty years of experience treating men and their families has convinced psychotherapist Terrence Real that depression is a silent epidemic in men -- that men hide their condition from family, friends, and themselves to avoid the stigma of depression's "un-manliness." Problems that we think of as typically male -- difficulty with intimacy, workaholism, alcoholism, abusive behavior, and rage-are really attempts to escape depression. And these escape attempts only hurt the people men love and pass their condition on to their children. This groundbreaking book is the "pathway out of darkness" that these men and their families seek. Real reveals how men can unearth their pain, heal themselves, restore relationships, and break the legacy of abuse. He mixes penetrating analysis with compelling tales of his patients and even his own experiences with depression as the son of a violent, depressed father and the father of two young sons.
Description:
When Terrence Real was studying to be a therapist, he accepted the notion that women suffered depression at rates several times that of men. Now he believes that conventional wisdom is wrong, that there has been a great cultural cover-up of depression in men. Real is convinced of the existence of a mental illness that is passed from fathers to sons in the form of rage, workaholism, distanced relationships from loved ones, and self-destructive behaviors ranging from stupid choices at work and in love to drug and alcohol abuse. Men reading I Don't Want to Talk About It will probably recognize themselves in every chapter, while women will recognize their partners--and, of course, both sexes will see their fathers in a new light.
Publisher: Scribner
Customer Review: 5 out of 5
Even females can have "male depression" - This book was very insightful and honest and helps you to see your situation from outside all the emotions. There aren't always answers but it helps to at least understand the source of some actions and feelings.
Customer Review: 5 out of 5
terrific book "I dont want to talk about it" - Literate to a high degree, insightful, helpful, and even revelatory, Terry Real's book, "I Don't Want to Talk About It" explores, with heoric assiduousness, the causes, manifestations, ramifications, implications, and possible releases from the contemporary problems included by the term "depression". One of the books triumphs is its accessibility, another its fertiltiy. I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression
Customer Review: 5 out of 5
My review - This book is an awesome book. It's got a lot of interesting cases in it as well as the scientific reasonings. I'm not a big reader, but this book really got me hooked.
Customer Review: 5 out of 5
Real deal - I've read this book over and over. It's insightful and brave. Some of the less enthusiastic reviewers are missing the point. You can be happy indeed if the traumas described here don't explain your or your loved ones' depression. There are plenty of people who WILL be helped by this book, even if you aren't.
Customer Review: 1 out of 5
More like a autobiography than a self help book - I honestly don't understand the many rave reviews! The title is misleading in that it does NOT help you to overcome depression. I do not recall any content that guides the reader through this disorder.
By the way, this is my first review and I'm not even the target male audience. However, my opinion mirrors that of my fiance for whom this book was intended. Usually we end up liking the library book so much we end up buying. Not the case for this book!
We both feel that this is more of an autobiography of his work with depressed patients. As another reviewer pointed out, it is basically a collection of stories. Even if the reader has the Exact childhood history/trauma and adult frustrations as one of his patients, I don't see any possible way for him to be helped with this book.
Most of the stories vaguely allude to the therapy sessions with the doctor but he never told us how he managed to help each of them. Organization wise, it's more of a novel and is a disappointment for someone who is looking for clear distinct chapters/categories.
One star because there are a few things we can take away from this book. For instance, the doctor made some social observations about depression which helps the reader understand how some male depression came about. Some of the stories might help parents to become more sensitive towards their children so that they won't grow up with self-esteem or any other issues.
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